INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE PREVENTS CONFLICTS

P-R-E-A-C-H:Avoid Conflict, Enhance IntimacyThis article is dedicated to Rev Mrs 'Kemi Babarinde, an intimate partner of 21yrs

1.     PERSONALITY MANAGEMENT
Be positive about your personality and your life. Know your personality type, your limitations and build on your strength. Accept yourself, the place where you are and the people around you. 

2.    REASONABLE REASONS
Never discuss with your spouse without justifiable reasons that are not sentimental. Majority of Nigerian husbands are with their brains soaked with pride and a measure of strong-head. With your reasons and facts be reasonable.

 3. EMOTIONAL STABILITY
Anger is a response that reacts to reality- people or issues. What you say, how it is said, on what occasion, in whose presence, intonation, enunciation and choice of word will always reflect our emotional stability. This is the starting point of crisis. Manage our emotions when you are hurt, injured, humiliated, abandoned, rejected, unprotected and insulted. 

 4.  AVAILABILITY THAT AVOIDS CRISIS
There is no place of avoidance of people in marriage like that of an office environment, Be available to manage issues but avoid crisis and discussions and actions that can promote crises.  

  5.  COMMITMENT TO FAMILY VALUES
Be at peace inwardly and be integrity based, match word with actions. When you are consistent, you will win your family with God-given wisdom. Virtues of honesty, love, forbearance and other fruit of the Spirit will help in managing crises. 

-          This is an extract of a section of presentation made at Shepherdhill Baptist Church on "Conflict Management in Marriage" and "Enhancing Intimacy in Marriage" to Pastors' Wives of Unity Baptist Association respectively

21st WEDDING ANNIVERSARY

It's been 21years since we were at the altar of St James Cathedral Ibadan.  It's been  God's Faithfulness and our Fruitfulness in the midst of our human weaknesses. Help me celebrate the engine of the Ship which I accepted to be the captain. See her behind me as Spiritual anchor for Strength.
'Kemi, to you, I am ever  grateful.

To all who have blessed us. Satellite Town Baptist Church and our parents; David & Comfort Bababrinde and Samuel & Rachel Malomo

SEND FORTH OF DR NIHINLOLA

Greatness does not begin in a day. Every human being have potentials.  Every believer in Christ have spiritual endowment.  Every minister whose calling is sure in Christ Jesus has the seed of greatness inherent in him. This passes through metamorphosis of sanctification.  Dr Nihinlola fit into such ministerial identity. He had gone through many areas of Baptist life- RA, Youth, BSF, Baptist Building,  Church Pastorate, Administration,  Lecturing , College of Theology and finally,  now in the Seminary.
     Historically, my Uncle Mr J. Bolaji Oladipo married his Anty Mary Oladipo. I recall Dr Nihinlola came with Dns McQueen to Inaugurate BSF at FBC ,Oko via Ogbomoso in 1986 where I was a BSF leader. Ministerial wise,  I met him in 1987 in his last year in the seminary as President,BSF Leaders Forum. I served with him in Ad Committee that organized Western Zone Conference at Ede in April 1988. We both came for M.Th in 1994-1996 and studied under Professor Yusuf Ameh Obaje. Coming to Lagos,  I served in the Board with him briefly and remain a Signatory to BCT Lagos Bank Accounts for his last three years. All these would have influenced my thought about him.

1. Conference Services
It is on record that you work harmoniously with Dr Oke and his successors. You head the team that studied multiplication.  It came to past. You head the Historical Committee and History of Lagos Baptist was published.  There is no Conference's Annual Workers Seminar that you have not been privilege to present a paper. There's no Annual session that you have not presented report.  You did your best.

2. Commitment to Sound Theological Education
The blueprint you wrote for Baptist College of Theology Lagos is there to confirm your convictions. The Annual Practical Theology Seminar has boosted the image of the College locally and internationally. You can look back or look at the shelf and thank God for the editions of Practical Theology that have been published.

3. Confonting Challenges of life with faith
Your faith has sustained you through trials. In offering yourself for service at various times where you were taken and where you were not; none is not devoid of spiritual and verbal attacks provoking you into trauma.You have always come out strong. Such faith has been evident as lesson for all. It is an immenient and eschatological. Such faith was demonstrated when you preached the burial sermon of Goke Adeleke and Tayo Orodiji. You have always preached faith.

Rev. Dr. O.Kehinde Babarinde

MMU ANNUAL CONFERENCE

ral Baptist Men Missionary Union 3rd Annual Conference Saturday16.Nov@First Baptist Church .FESTAC Town Lagos Nigeria.Each Local Churh MMU should send officers and members. All MMU Association Executive  are requested to attend. Pastors+Deacons  should come and enrich the meeting

Rev Dr Kehinde Babarinde Conference President

3rd MMU ANNUAL CONFERENCE

Lagos Central Baptist Men Missionary Union 3rd Annual Conference
Saturday16.Nov@First Baptist Church .FESTAC Town Lagos Nigeria.

Each Local Churh MMU should send officers and members. All MMU Association Executive  are requested to attend. Pastors+Deacons  should come and enrich the meeting

Rev Dr Kehinde Babarinde Conference President

READING THE BIBLE

5 Methods of Bible Study

Apr 7th, 2010
Adam Faughn↓

Skip to commentsI hear often, "I know I need to study the Bible, but I just don't know how to get started." That is a very logical complaint. Let's be honest: the Bible is a fairly large book with a lot of material in it! We often hear those who have studied the Bible their entire lives say, "I still study because there's something left to master." That is great, but for one trying to start studying, it can be a bit discouraging.The major step is starting, but how? There are many different ways to study the Bible. I want to share 5 with you that require little, if any, materials other than a Bible and something to take notes with. Choose one and start there.1. With a telescope. Study the Bible from an overview perspective. What is the overall message of God's Word? What are its major themes? How does it all piece together? The class I teach on Sunday mornings is beginning a series on the chronology of the Bible. It may not be an in-depth study, but it should help us all get a good overview of the message of God's Book. A lot of good background materials on the Bible can be found online for free. Ask the same questions of the Bible that you would for any other book (theme, author, purpose, etc.) and makes notes.

2. Book by book. Once you have a decent knowledge of the overall message of God's Word, select a book you want to know more about. (May I suggest, for your first one, that you select an easier or more familiar book? Don't start out with Romans, Ezekiel, or Revelation!) Check your church library or online for a good commentary to help you, but make your own notes! Read and reread and re-reread the text. Ask what you want to know more about, then study that passage in greater depth. You'll probably be amazed how many notes you take and what a great resource they become when you return to study that book later! (One further suggestion. If you are just starting out, select a shorter book like First Timothy. You'll be more likely to finish and that will motivate you to move on to another book.

)3. By topic. Why do we baptize for remission of sins? Why do we worship on Sunday? What was involved in the Passover? These are questions that can be studied topically. Select a topic or issue you want to know more about and start finding every passage that speaks to that topic. Some online tools can help, as can a work such as Nave's Topical Bible. Start a notebook and write what you want most to learn and to gain from this study. Then dig deeply!

4. By personality. When you read Ruth are you moved by Naomi? Do you want to be more like Daniel? Does one of the apostles touch your life in a special way? Then study that life! Use an online concordance and print out a list of every time that person's name appears in Scripture (just be sure that, if you are studying Joseph, for example, you know which Joseph!). Then read and study those passages. What did that person do well? What was the motivation in that person's life? Where did they fail? Whom did they influence? (By the way, study the lives of some who weren't so "positive," too, and it will add depth to your Bible knowledge.)

5. By word study. Honestly, this may be the most difficult, but it is often the most rewarding. What makes studying words difficult is that it takes a lot of digging to get at the original meaning. What does "atonement" mean? What does the Bible mean when it speaks of "mercy"? What is "sanctification?" How does the Bible define "love"? Find all you can find about these words and you'll have a richer experience the next time you see them in Scripture- See more at: http://www.faughnfamily.com/5-methods-of-bible-study/#sthash.3p4yC9CD.dpuf

Rev Dr Kehinde Babarinde Conference President

CHRISTIAN EDUCATION END OF YEAR CELEBRATIONS

The Prog holds on Sat.November.9 at First Baptist Church Ajegunle.9am .From each church we expect -Sunday School -DTM - Children & Sunbeam Coordinators -Teenagers' Coordinator Rev Ssmuel Nyi Oladejo will minister

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