P-R-E-A-C-H:Avoid Conflict, Enhance IntimacyThis article is dedicated to Rev Mrs 'Kemi Babarinde, an intimate partner of 21yrs
1. PERSONALITY MANAGEMENT
Be positive about your personality and your life. Know your personality type, your limitations and build on your strength. Accept yourself, the place where you are and the people around you.
2. REASONABLE REASONS
Never discuss with your spouse without justifiable reasons that are not sentimental. Majority of Nigerian husbands are with their brains soaked with pride and a measure of strong-head. With your reasons and facts be reasonable.
3. EMOTIONAL STABILITY
Anger is a response that reacts to reality- people or issues. What you say, how it is said, on what occasion, in whose presence, intonation, enunciation and choice of word will always reflect our emotional stability. This is the starting point of crisis. Manage our emotions when you are hurt, injured, humiliated, abandoned, rejected, unprotected and insulted.
4. AVAILABILITY THAT AVOIDS CRISIS
There is no place of avoidance of people in marriage like that of an office environment, Be available to manage issues but avoid crisis and discussions and actions that can promote crises.
5. COMMITMENT TO FAMILY VALUES
Be at peace inwardly and be integrity based, match word with actions. When you are consistent, you will win your family with God-given wisdom. Virtues of honesty, love, forbearance and other fruit of the Spirit will help in managing crises.
- This is an extract of a section of presentation made at Shepherdhill Baptist Church on "Conflict Management in Marriage" and "Enhancing Intimacy in Marriage" to Pastors' Wives of Unity Baptist Association respectively
There is no management where and when there are no resources. Management has to do with utilizing available resources toward achieving a specific goal. Managing crises at home front requires that both husband and wife should be ready to employ spiritual gifts toward achieving peace and progress in their marriage under the enabling environment the Lord of marriage has created. Shalom!
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