KNOW YOURSELF BETTER

THE FOUR TEMPERAMENT THEORY!

Psychologist researchers have discovered why human behaviours differ from one person to the other. 

_Man Know Thyself_

👉🏾 *Choleric*

👉🏾 *Melancholic*

👉🏾 *Phlegmatic* 

👉🏾 *Sanguine*

I would walk you through a brief description of these character traits. 

🤗 _C H O L E R I C S_ 🤗

👉🏾 They are naturally proud

👉🏾 They are very extrovert 

👉🏾 They are domineering 

👉🏾 They love to lead and direct affairs

👉🏾 They mostly seek to be in control of situations

👉🏾 They always want to be on top and be seen

👉🏾 They exhibit high level of resilience

👉🏾 They usually do not relent, until they've succeeded, however:

👉🏾 They are easily angered 

👉🏾 They are hot tempered

👉🏾 They are irascible

*Cholerics are alphas of our specie*

🤗 M E L A N C H O L I C S_ 🤗

👉🏾 They are undoubtedly gloomy of mind (*especially when an act/situation becomes habitual or prolonged*)

👉🏾 They are perfectionists 

👉🏾 They are also idealist, who want things to be done in certain way (*therefore, they do not vouch for mediocrity*)

👉🏾 They only award/appreciate excellent performance/results 

👉🏾 They are generally finicky 

👉🏾 They hold themselves and others to unrealistically high standards

👉🏾 They enjoy individual studies/learning than group learning

👉🏾 They delight in breaking & setting new records 

👉🏾 They are generally bookworms 

👉🏾 They easily get distressed when expectations/standards are not met

👉🏾 They are generally neat, organized and focused 

*Melancholia does not easily share because he/she believe you can't handle it the way he/she wants it*

🤗 _P H L E G M A T I C_ 🤗

👉🏾They are generally meek, submissive and introverts 

👉🏾 They live to please others (epitome of eye service)

👉🏾 They are also workaholics 

👉🏾 They do not act as if they are better than others 

👉🏾 They are eager to please others rather than asserting their own desires 

👉🏾 They are not easily excited to actions or display of emotion, apathetic, sluggish etc...

They are extremely slow-paced and stubborn 

👉🏾 They go through life doing as little as possible, quietly and expending little energy

👉🏾 They are very emotional, yet, able to accommodate/tolerate everyone

👉🏾 They are not daring due to unnecessary apprehensions 

👉🏾 They are easily persuaded 

👉🏾 They are able to endure pressure or hardship

👉🏾 They are not sex fun and can survive for long without sex

👉🏾 They are mostly vulnerable to social vices 

*Phlegmatic mostly performs abysmally in leadership positions*

🤗 _S A N G U I N E_ 🤗

👉🏾 They are easily noted by their cheerful mood

👉🏾 They are very optimistic, hopeful and confident 

👉🏾 They are boisterous, bubbly, chatty and openly emotional

👉🏾 They are socially extroverts 

👉🏾 They easily forgive and let go 

👉🏾 They love to comment on whatever they see/hear

👉🏾 They find social interactions with faces both familiar and unfamiliar 

👉🏾 They have mastery over emotional tendencies

👉🏾 They do not intentionally plan to learn, yet, they are able to grasp information just by audio or visual

👉🏾 They are often disorganized and faulter in their discretions 

*Sanguine easily commit unpardonable mistakes* (example cheating in relationships 😰)

C O N C L U S I O N

These are inbuilt abilities or virtues God, in His infinite wisdom has deposited in every human being. 

These characteristics differentiate you from the rest, making you distinct. 

It must also be noted, that one person can exhibit all the four categories, however, one of them would dominate or be profound. 

NOTE THIS

None of these four temperamental traits is EVIL, you only have to know/identify yourself and manage it. 

It's expedient to know yourself in order to help you know others. 

This shall enhance healthy relationships with every individual. 

*Do not forget, that Nature and Nurture have the tendencies of altering these traits.*

🤓 Try and discover who you are. Life gets better when you know who you are living with and when you know those around you as well.Good morning aus

DIFFICULT AND DANGEROUS PEOPLE

SEVEN DANGEROUS PEOPLE IN AN ORGANISATION 

The assignment is to know  them and handle them with wisdom of and the knowledge of the word of God 

As a Leader, beware that at one stage or the other in your church, business or association, you will find yourself dealing with the following groups of people. If you don't have wisdom to deal with them, your position and efforts are in danger.

1. *THOMAS GROUP* -They walk with you but they don't really believe in you. Though God can use you in front of them, they are not easily moved they take time to believe in you. These people can delay your vision and they are also not aware they are also delaying themselves. It's a struggle and a burden to lead people who don't believe in you.

2. *JUDAS  GROUP*- They walk with you but they have issues with you when God begins to bless you. They are not happy when things of great value are given to you. In short they are jealous of your success. When elevation comes they will say we are poor in the work place but the Boss is driving a BMW 5 series but we have people that are struggling financially in this workplace. They want you to drive a probox which will make them happy. They have serious issues if your life becomes better and better. They talk as if you don't  care about the poor. Hear these Leaders,  anyone  who is jealous about your prosperity in your workplace tomorrow he will betray you. 

3. *ABSALOM  GROUP*- You give them opportunity to teach or lead and he begins to see himself as the Leader of the place, he believes he can teach and lead better than you. When he leads, he leads to prove a point that he is better than you,  he won't even mention you in his conversation. He works behind you to steal the hearts of people so that people will follow him. He will make people to feel they are neglected in your position. He will tell people he is there for them to help them anytime they need help. This one he is in competition with you , he believes he can be a better Leader than you . Tomorrow trust me he will split your followers. 

4. *KORAH  GROUP*- This one will challenge your authority, he believes you are at the same level with everyone and he has issues when others give honor to you. He will say you are honoring this man too much. He has issues when you give instructions, he is rebellious and dangerous because he sees you as someone who is at the same level with him. He believes everyone is professional and everyone is educated so what is so special about you . 

5. *HAM  GROUP*- This one he will expose your nakedness, the day you find yourself in a shameful act, He will tell everybody your weaknesses and he will be happy to expose your disaster . 

6. *GEHAZI  GROUP*-He is with you but he will be collecting money from behind your back. He takes advantage that he is close to the Leader and use that to collect things from people. He borrows money from people and he does not pay them back. He goes to people to ask for financial assistance and make people feel you are not taking good care of him as he serves in the house. 

7. *DEOTREPHES GROUP*- This one is too dangerous, he is famous in the workplace/group/association, he has power and influence and has a voice amongst the people. He speaks malicious words behind your back . He is poisonous, he can come with stories that can totally destroy your image as a Leader. He can come up with serious lies that cause people to leave your group. He will come with stories that you are using their money , you are sleeping with women and using charms to sustain your position. His stories are very harmful and dangerous. 

Therefore I pray that God will give you wisdom to deal with all these, because,  no Leader can rise to higher level of his calling until all these have been dealt with in his environment.

May God help us to lead well....Ameeeen!

SECURITY TIPS FOR STAYING SAFE DURING ELECTION

 SECURITY TIPS FOR STAYING SAFE DURING ELECTION 

1. Do Not Argue About Politics in Public

If you belong to a particular political party and there is an argument about another political party, then it is important that you do not join in. This is so that you don't dabble into the augment that may warrant a fight to ensue.

2. Always Get Back home On Time

The election period in various countries of the world, may be a time for violence to develop; therefore it is appropriate that you do not stay out late. As a matter of fact you have got to get home early.

3. Do Not Criticize Any Politician

Do not attempt to criticize any politician of the opposition party in your community in public. This is because if you do, you might be stepping one the toes of people who may want to be harmful.

4. Do not Support or Wear Political Campaign Uniforms to polling unit

If you belong to any political party, it may be better that you do not wear political party uniforms. This is so that you do not attract the attention of opposition party members who may be irritated by it. More often than not these party members may be all out to injure others.

5. Don't Keep Late Nights

It is very needful that during election period, you wrap up all you have to do before late night. As a matter of fact most organizations in Nigeria for instance, to a very large extent preach that their workers must not prowl at late night.

6. Always Listen to the News-:

One of the ways to be security conscious during election time is to always stay abreast with issues. One of the ways to comfortably do this is by listening to the news always.

7. Don't Disclose Who You Will Vote For at the Polls

During election period, people have different Candidates they pledge allegiance to. Some of them go as far as picking up a fight with those who aren't in the same camp with them. Therefore it would do you well not to disclose whom you plan to vote for.

8. Once You Cast Your Vote Go Straight to Your House

One of the ways to stay secure during elections is by returning home after casting your vote. Staying back, for loitering with other supporters after casting your vote may be detrimental.

9. Don't Move About With Huge Cash

If you have plans to move around with huge amount of cash during election, then you want to consider having a re-think, as this is no time to do such. Miscreants take advantage of the period to rob people off their valuables.

10. When Driving, Ensure That Your Car Central Lock is activated-:

Do not drive without making sure that your car central lock is activated. You need to be safe inside your vehicle, rather than unsafe.

11. Steer Clear Undefined Crowd or Groups of People-:

 It is very needful that you do not associate yourself with undefined crowd or group of people who take delight in analyzing political issues and candidates in public.

12. If You Must Hang out with Friends, Ensure that it is Safe to Do So

Should you want to hang out with friends, then you must really be sure that you do this in a very secure area. It has to be in a non-violent area, or an area that is less prone to violence.

13. Don't Move About With Expensive Gadgets (Mobile Device)

You would be doing yourself a world of good, if you do not move around with expensive gadgets. This is so that you do not run into scoundrels who may want to rob you off them.

14. Minimize Your Family Outings during Elections Period

It is important that you minimize your Family Outings during election. This is because of the pockets of troubles which may ensue and which makes your family vulnerable to any attack.

15. Stock up Your Home with Food

The election period is a period that enforces the stay at home order. Therefore, it is vital to store up the house with all the food stuff and ingredients that is needed so as to avoid incessant outings to the markets and malls.

16. Have Your Doctor's Number Handy

If you do not have a medical person's details handy, then you may want to know that you need to do this. So that you can call whenever you need a medical assistance during election.

17. Cast Your Vote Once

One of the ways that you may be fermenting security trouble is when you decide to vote twice or more. There may be other party candidates that may want to get violent with you. So vote for your candidate just once.

18. Do Not Talk Recklessly At the Polls-:

 To be safe; it is forbidden to talk recklessly at the polling unit about any candidate or the election process. Doing this may attract some grave consequences.

19. Celebrate in a Civil Manner

If after the elections your candidate wins, then it is important that you celebrate in a civil manner. It is no time to begin to paint the town red in a lavish style. Remember, that some folks who are in support of the opposition may not be too happy.

20. Do Not Partake in Election Violence

Do not put yourself up to be used by politicians to perpetrate election violence. This is because some opposition people might as well be lurking in the dark to harm those who do this.      

21.Do not argue on social media groups                    

 As Election period is draws near, enemies are made,  friends delete themselves from groups because of arguments and insults  for or against a preferred candidate. Stop this attitude cos when politicians win or lose they enjoy themselves at *ONE CORNER* while those quarrelling over political parties/ candidates of choice have lost their friends/friendship. A worthy friend is worth keeping at all time.

*Please it is needful that you take to these election security tips to the latter. So that you do not have yourself to blame at the end. Practicing all these tips would only mean that you are relevant to the society.*

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FAITH OF OUR FATHERS AND MOTHERS

Take me back to the old Paths, when Moms were at home.

Dads were at work. 

Brothers went into the army.

And sisters got married BEFORE having  children!

Crime did not pay; Hard work did;

And people knew the difference.

 

Moms could cook; Dads would work; 

Children would behave...

Husbands were loving; Wives were supportive; and children were polite.

 

Women wore the dresses; and Men wore the trousers.

Women looked like ladies;Men looked like gentlemen; and children looked decent.

 

People loved the truth, and hated a lie;

They came to church to get IN, Not to get OUT!

 

Hymns sounded Godly; Sermons sounded helpful;

Rejoicing sounded normal; and crying sounded sincere.

Cursing was wicked; Drinking was evil; and divorce was unthinkable.

 

We read the Bible in public; Prayed in school; 

And preached from house to house.

To be called a Christian was worth living for;

To be called a traitor was a shame!

 

Sex was a personal word. Homosexual was an unheard of word, And abortion was an illegal word.

 

Preachers preached because they had a message; and

Christians rejoiced because they had the VICTORY!

Preachers preached from the Bible; 

Singers sang from the heart; 

Sinners turned to the Lord to be SAVED!

 

A new birth meant a new life; Salvation meant a changed life; 

Following Christ led to eternal life.

 

Being a preacher meant you proclaimed the word of God;

Being a deacon meant you would serve the Lord;

Being a Christian meant you would live for Jesus;

And being a sinner meant someone was praying for you!

 

Laws were based on the Bible; 

Homes read the Bible;

And churches taught the Bible.

 

Preachers were more interested in new converts than new clothes and new cars.

 

Church was where you found Christians on the Lord's day, rather than being entertained someway.

 

Give me that old time religion!

'Tis good enough for me!

 I still like the "Old Paths" best! Jeremiah! 6:16.

Please will you forward this to your generation maybe it will add meaning to someone.

Faith of our fathers, living still In spite of dungeon, fire and sword, O how our hearts beat high with joy Whene'er we hear that glorious word! Faith of our fathers! holy faith! We will be true to thee till death!
2	Our fathers, chained in prisons dark, Were still in heart and conscience free; And blest would be their children's fate, If they, like them should die for thee: Faith of our fathers! holy faith! We will be true to thee till death!
3	Faith of our fathers, we will strive To win all nations unto thee; And through the truth that comes from God Mankind shall then indeed be free. Faith of our fathers! holy faith! We will be true to thee till death!
4	Faith of our fathers, we will love Both friend and foe in all our strife, And preach thee, too, as love knows how By kindly words and virtuous life. Faith of our fathers! holy faith! We will be true to thee till death!

 Pls Bless a soul today.

YOUR PASTOR NEEDS YOUR ALL

15 TIPS ON GOOD LEADERSHIP IN A LOCAL BAPTIST CHURCH

by Pastor Ayodeji Jegede

1. Be converted. Your salvation experience is the foundation of your testimony as a believer. Without it, you are not qualified to lead.

2. Be consecrated to God wholeheartedly. Your dedication and separation is basis for divine results and rewards. It makes you a vessel of perpetual praise to God.

3. Be convinced of the area of your call to serve God. Start small and grow steadily identifying areas of spiritual giftings through discipleship and service.

4. Be committed to whatever is committed to your hands. Spirituality in God's kingdom is not a function of the size of tasks, what matters is faithfulness. God does not expect what He has not given to you. It is your responsibility to find out what He has given.

5. Be Spirit-filled at all times, not only in the church. This is command that is continuous and requires our conscious obedience. Christian leaders must do only what Jesus would do.

6. Be commissioned for assignment. God delegates power to the local church to act on His behalf through the Holy Spirit by recognizing and approving the giftings of individuals for relevant service within the local church. The local church must ensure that she tastes the competence, tests the convictions and trust the character of the individual before approval for service.

7. Be concerned about matters of the church. Leaders who are functional update themselves with information about the church not for gossip but for actions towards growth. Leaders are the first point of call when issues arise, therefore they must be updated.

8. Be compassionate about fellow workers. Biblical hierarchy is for order not superiority, this makes all workers in the local church partners rather than superiors or surbodinates. Our  work is inextricably interwoven, therefore, one of us cannot truly succeed without the other. We must synergize.

9. Be passionate about the sinners.   Effective administration of the local church is critical to her success. But it must supplant evangelism and discipleship. Our primary aim as a church is to bring sinners to the saving knowledge of Jesus Christ. We must be careful of majoring on the minor.

10. Be exemplary in your character and conduct. Local church leaders are primary representatives of Jesus Christ. They must visibly incarnate His personality and embody His principles for all to acknowledge, approve and imitate.

11. Be friendly with other members and followers of Jesus Christ. Leadership comes with attendant challenges of pride, busyness, and burnout. Don't get involved in leadership without a genuine for God, people and service. Come to church with the aim of loving God by serving people.

12. Be empathetic with people without downplaying their  problems. The leader's ears must be bigger than his mouth, and his heart must be open to identify with the challenges of others. Don't assume you know what people are going through, please hear them out. Listen to all sides before you express your own side.

13. Be available for assignments and errands. Leadership is responsibility and it is not compulsory. Unavailable leaders are unacceptable in a local church where more hands are needed for progress in kingdom business. Work out your schedule to be available during the week. No matter how busy you are, God is more important than your job.

14. Be sacrificial ly-driven to support your local church. Leaders give the best of themselves; their time, money, ideas, and energies to the local church. They often work late, labour to exhaustion, neglect much needed personal matters, pray at odd times and visit members to confirm their consecration to God.

15. Be a learner at the feet of Jesus Christ. Local church leaders must have learnt how to sit, kneel and stand for the Master. Don't sacrifice your relationship for activities. Set your priorities right to get the best of God before you give your best to men. Don't always be at the giving end, also learn how to receive from God and from other Christian leaders or members.

3 Ways You Can Serve Teenagers in Your Church

Jaquelle Crowe

Some think teenagers are precious works in progress, and others are overwhelmed by their messiness. Many church members think serving teenagers is a lot like serving babies: there are those who have the "gift" of youth ministry, and those who simply don't.

And let's be honest—teenagers can be messy. I'm a teenager, and I admit that. We aren't always the easiest to serve. Even those of us following Jesus are still young, inexperienced, and have much to learn. We're in a different stage of life than any other church member, so it can be difficult to relate to our persistent challenges, struggles, and questions.

But whether you know it or not, the teenagers in your church need you. They need the whole church—pastor, stay-at-home mom, single, married, retired—to love and welcome them as fellow members of the family.

Over my 18 years in the church, I've seen three ways every church member can (and should) serve their teenagers: by getting to know us, by not underestimating us, and by teaching us.

1. Get to Know Us

Love can't thrive where stereotypes and misunderstandings reign. If you don't know the teenagers at your church, you can't serve them (Gal. 5:13). Start by pulling them into the life and heartbeat of your church through communication. Walk up to a teen or two this Sunday and ask them about their week, about their studies and hobbies, and what they've recently read in the Bible. Tell them about yourself. Create a meaningful dialogue as the first step to building a relationship. You'll discover fears, insecurities, needs, and desires that will equip you to serve them with an intentionality you wouldn't have otherwise.

Teenagers need adults to be our friends, not just our teachers. That's important to us. It shows us we're welcomed and loved. Too often Christian teenagers can feel like second-class citizens, like we're in limbo between "first class" adult members and "third class" little kids. But investing in us reminds us that we're part of the family. In 1 Corinthians 12, Paul talks about members of the church as different parts of the same body—eyes, ears, feet, hands. He paints a picture of unified diversity. In other words, the church needs middle-aged eyes and 20-something ears and senior hands just as much as it needs teenaged feet.

2. Don't Underestimate Us

When considering how to minister to the Christian teenagers at your church, don't stifle us with low expectations. Expect that we're thinking and growing, that we're pursuing truth and holiness, and that we want sound doctrine. Don't perpetuate stereotypes of ignorance or immaturity without foundation. That's unfair. We don't think of the seniors in our churches as inept and senile. We know they're individuals with real personalities and passions. 

Sometimes adults can make faulty and hurtful assumptions about teenagers without even realizing it. It bothers me when I hear negative generalizations about my generation. Yes, there are some immature teenagers. Yes, there are some teenagers who are consistently irresponsible, disrespectful, and disobedient to their parents. But that's not who we all are.

So don't expect the worst from your teenaged church members. Don't underestimate us. Raise your expectations for us to those of any other young and growing Christian.

3 You need to teach Us 

Now I know I said earlier that teenagers need you to be our friends, not just our teachers, but the key word was just. We most definitely need you to teach us too. We're looking for a certain kind of teacher, though. We're looking for those who'll come alongside us and humbly demonstrate what it means to live for Jesus, not instructors who want to lord knowledge over us or stuff rules down our throats. 

I can't tell you how much my church has taught me about compassion, kindness, gentleness, service, speaking the truth in love, and forgiveness. Most of it has come just from watching them live. I watch how they make meals for families in grief. I watch how they resolve conflicts. I watch how they sit with people who sit alone or greet visitors with inviting warmth. I watch how eager they are to learn the truth, how they care for children, and how they pray in public.

Teenagers are watching you, too. I promise you that. We see it all, we think about it all, we learn from it all. The church members who've taught me the most are not the Sunday school teachers and youth leaders. They're the people 10 feet out of the spotlight who've served me by modeling godliness and grace.

*Will You Help?* 

So I get it. Teenaged Christians aren't always the easiest to serve. But here's the thing—we need you. We're at a critical stage in life, coming into our own, piecing together answers to our biggest questions, and forming our lifelong relationship with the church.

To you, church member, I ask: Will you help us? Will you be there for us? Will you get to know us? Will you expect great things from us? And will you teach us what it means to follow Jesus?

We may be different than you, but we're all running this race together. Please serve us, and let us serve you.

Jaquelle Crowe is the author of This Changes Everything: How the Gospel Transforms the Teen Years (Crossway, 2017). She's also the co-founder of The Young Writers Workshop and lives in eastern Canada. You can follow her on Twitter.

BOWEN UNIVERSITY, SOARING HIGHER

BOWEN UNIVERSITY,  SOARING HIGHER

FROM  Prof.Joshua Ogunwole 

Vice-Chancellor, 

Bowen University, Iwo. Nigeria 

 I understand what it means when strong emotions intermix with additional financial burden especially at this economically hard times.

It is on record that the University approved a search into identified rooms after a tip-off and 43 students were approached to submit themselves for dope test. 37 agreed while 6 refused (I will come back to the refusal). Of the 37 that were examined, 24 tested positive to some drug metabolites while some were found to have been in possesion of prohibited substances . Imagine what a statistician will do when interpreting that number against our population. Those who refused to submit themselves for a dope test were in fact on our list of the most notorious- but these ones immediately violated our laws and were charged for insubordination. I will not be a VC that will graduate students who will refuse to obey constituted authorities.

To the reason for the action of the University, may I start with what I have observed within just few months of this administration. From the lens of student discipline, I have observed that there are lots of very young, timid but highly intelligent students (boys and girls) amidst the large section of our student population- I have also observed that there is a few of very experienced students who are hard drug users and suppliers and who have found their way into the institution due to our porous borders in the past and who are now bent on influencing the larger section of students whose primary purpose here is to study in line with what Bowen accepts in her extant regulations. I am a parent and heaven will hold me responsible if any of your ward fails to glorify the Almighty God in Character and Learning.

Bowen through her motto stands for Excellence and Godliness. May I ask what is excellent in drug and what is Godly in dangerous addictions? That stand (in our motto) will not change because of a few students (24 of them) who tested positive to drug metabolites of frightening degree and type and most of whom are behind the moves to cause unrest on campus. Let me assure you that Bowen will be ridden of these ones. We cannot build any meaningful structure on drugs; the structure in a matter of time will collapse and such collapse may not be good for incalculable reasons.

Cherished Parents, please,   you need to bear with us at this time as we take this opportunity to think-through the next phase of this institution painfully, collectively and prayerfully.

I pray for Gods in-exhaustive provision for you.

Thanks and God bless.